Hi Guys. I know this could get long, but please read the whole thing.
I’m going to say right here. No, I am not 14. No, I am not some crazy little girl who only thinks she is in love. I am old enough to know what I feel, so please don’t be rude, and please don’t judge.
So, I have known “Aaron” for five years. He asked me out several times, but I said no because i had been in a sexually abusive situation with a guy and I wasn’t ready to trust a guy again. He was incredible throughout the whole ordeal and was my best friend.
A while back, he asked me out again and I said yes because I was finally ready for a relationship.
He is the sweetest guy ever and I am totally and completely in love with him. He has asked me to spend the rest of our lives together and I told him that when the time is right, I would.
Yesterday, we met at our small-town “mall” to hang out. We walked around holding hands and talking, and he kissed me a couple of times. After a couple of hours, we decided to leave so he walked me to my truck. He kissed me goodbye, but we got caught up in the moment and couldn’t stop, so he climbed up ion beside me. We made out and touched a little, but nothing really bad.
When we were finally able to stop, he said he had to go, and that he loved me.
Up to this point, you are probably wondering what my question is.
My problem is that my parents are unbelievably old fashioned, and will not allow me to date until I have graduated college, even if that means I have to wait until I’m 37.
No, I’m not 14. I take my college courses online from a nearby university because we don’t have colleges in our little town.
Anyways, when I got home yesterday, dad said that he knew that I had kissed my boyfriend behind his back. (Yeah, like I’m really going to be all “Hey, Dad! I just got out of a make-out session with Aaron!”) He said that what i had done was very wrong, and that I was not allowed to see Aaron as a boyfriend anymore. He went on to say that if I continued to see him, he would put a stop to it himself, regardless of what it would take or if i would ever speak to him again. Then he asked why I couldn’t live without Aaron, but I didn’t say anything because he was mocking me instead of looking for an answer.
I haven’t told Aaron yet because I don’t know how. If he thinks he’s messing up my life, he’ll leave me so I can “find something better.”
I feel like my parents totally overreacted. I mean its not like we were having sex. We are both virgins and were waiting for our wedding night and my parents know that. I also feel that I should be the one to say whether or nor I continue to date Aaron.
Please give me any advice on what to do, and how to tell my boyfriend. I don’t want to lose him.
Thanks, and I hope i get some good answers!
I also need advice on how to keep my dad from making him break up with me.
Answers within a couple of hours would be really appreciated!