This is something that I’ve really been struggling with for the past few days. Here’s the situation: I decided about 2 months ago that I was going to go to college (I’m 21 years old). My dad was excited about it and he offered to pay. My fiance proposed to me about a month later. I said yes (obviously), and my dad agreed to also pay for the wedding in June 2010. I work part time, I would be going to school full time and planning a wedding at the same time. So, I’m thinking that my life wouldnt be as hectic if I decided to take the same courses for college online. My dad has already put a deposit down on our wedding hall. I’m afraid that if I tell him that I want to take classes online that he’ll freak out. My dad is the type of person where he thinks that his word is “god’s word” and that he’s never wrong no matter what.
I want to try to explain to him that if I take classes online that it’ll be the same exact degree and the same amount of work. I’m an adult, I can make my own decisions. But I’m afraid that he’ll get his deposit back from the wedding hall if I tell him that I’m going to take classes online.
What can I say to him to make him trust that I’m doing the right thing? My father and I have always had communication problems. We butt heads when we fight because we’re so alike. We both always think that we’re right all the time…
How should I handle this situation?
Also, last time I asked a question in this section, I received very rude comments about how “you father shouldnt be paying for your wedding at all”. If you’re going to make a comment like that, then dont answer. My dad wants to pay for our wedding.
I am not acting like a spoiled brat. I want to make sure that I have time for everything without wanting to kill myself. I dont care if other people would kill to be in my place. They’re not. And that’s not my fault. So, basically what you’re saying is that me taking online classes is being a child? Grow up.
the online classes will be with the same college that I was going to physically go to. It’s the same degree, same classes and everything, only i’d be taking it online with the same college.
My father will object to online classes because he thinks that I need a “college experience”. I do not need a college experience. The college I chose is a community college so it’s basically like being in high school all over again. I do not need to be in class with 18 year old girls. All they care about is getting messed up and what boy they’re hooking up with. I don’t want that drama in my life.