Do social networking sites hurt loners?

By | November 30, 2015

I am a loner that has never learned social skills since I was a child. I’m also one of the few people that doesn’t use Facebook/Myspace/LinkedIn. I like YA because you can remain anonymous, but there’s no way I can embarass myself to the world with a Facebook account that has 0 friends. Not to mention, I’m very ugly and there’s no way I can put a picture of my face online. But these days it’s almost impossible to make friends if you don’t have Facebook. It’s ironic that I got a degree in computer science because it’s a field that’s supposed to fit loners, but it’s technology (well, IMO just marketing) that’s making people like me more and more ostracized.

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7 thoughts on “Do social networking sites hurt loners?

  1. Aidan

    I don’t have FB or anything and I am fine. I cba with the commenting like Cya L8r peepz xx <3.

  2. Karen

    I think social networking sites make loners feel worse about themselves because they know that if they were to make one that they wouldn’t have any friends on there. But luckily, it’s their choice. They don’t have to make a facebook or myspace or whatever, so they don’t have to get hurt.

  3. jazzy_905

    I honestly think it does because if your on there and you send someone a friend request and they deny it it is upsetting, or the picture comments that people leave can hurt. Also with myspace you have your top friends and if you take someone off your top friend list you might as well tell them you wish they were dead, so yes in my opinion I think they can hurt. I’m not really pretty…at all, but I am very outgoing and have a great personality so that makes up for some of it so I have a myspace-200 Friends and I have a facebook-like 158 friends but if I hadn’t have started a new school where people didn’t know about me having sex with my best friends boyfriend I would be humiliated to have a myspace or facebook because I wouldn’t have any friends. So I defiantly see where you are coming from.

  4. Joel H

    Yea, I don’t do that shtick either. For some reason I registered an account on the first 2 and Twitter but I never use them.

  5. nmnf_43

    In any case, those sites are only healthy when they’re used as a crutch as opposed to an entire communication medium. I’m really shy, and I’ve found that it’s easier for me to break the ice in social relationships with people by talking to them online. But if I were to rely primarily on that and never properly balance the online and face-to-face communication, I’d have a really hard time gaining social skills and confidence.

  6. Emiloo

    To answer your question – No, not really. I think that they can help loners.

    The thing with being a loner is that you can remain anonymous wherever you go online. Even if you put up a picture of yourself, no one would know who you are. Most people online don’t care about appearances or the number of friends someone has; so if you’re worried about that, you don’t need to be.

    Don’t be worried about not having friends at first – sites like Facebook/MySpace have interest groups that you can join. You can post things in there, like articles, pictures, or random posts/discussion threads. You say you have a degree in computer science – I bet there are groups with people who have a degree like that. And whatever interests you have hobby-wise, I bet you can find online too!

    You don’t even need to put a picture of yourself at all. Many people put up pictures of random things – like anime characters or their pets. You could do that at first, and then maybe later put up a picture of yourself. And besides, just because you think you’re very ugly, does not mean everyone else does too! :)

    You say it’s almost impossible to make friends if you don’t have Facebook. I disagree. The majority of friends that people add on Facebook are people that they already know in real life. It’s just another way for people to keep in touch with one another. Although Facebook can help you to meet new people, not having one doesn’t mean you will not be able to make friends.

    You know what makes it close to impossible to make friends? Being a loner – particularly a shy one. It can be really hard to approach people and talk to them. I know because I am shy and a loner. It may not sound like it, but it’s really true. The only way I was able to make friends was from being in extracurricular activities in school (band). There, other students went up to me and introduced themselves. I was able to get out of my shell a little, because of that, but I still remain shy to this day and a loner.

    You already graduated, so I can’t say to go participate in an extracurricular activity. Do you have a job right now? If so, do you talk with co-workers? One way to make friends is to talk with someone. You say you’re a loner, but I think if you found some way to talk with your co-workers, you could open up more. If they are talking about something interesting during break and you happen to listen to them, you should slowly walk up to them and maybe add something to the conversation.

    Do you like going to conventions? You may bump into someone who shares the same interests as you.

    The only negative thing I experienced was feeling a little out of date when people around me were talking about Facebook/MySpace. I joined those sites later than most of the people I knew. At first I didn’t care, but then it got to me, mainly because I wanted to know more about my fellow band mates and see what they were up to. I felt a bit out of date too, because basically everyone and their mother was on there and I wanted to get in on the action. Being a loner, you may not have experienced this, so you don’t have to worry about it.

    I think that if you want to make friends, joining a social networking site can help. You can find all sorts of interest groups on there and meet people from around the world. I think it’s a lot easier to talk to someone online than in person. I know there are loners who don’t mind being alone, but you sound like you want to meet people. Try joining one of those sites. It won’t hurt, and who knows, you’ll find some friends before you know it! :)

    P.S. It think it’s hard to find friends on here, but you can talk to me if you want. ^_^

  7. overworked_lazy_student

    I know what you mean I have very few friends and lack social skills too…but social networking sites can help you meet people even without placing a picture of yourself you can talk to others. You could send out friend requests to people who seem interesting and who knows you could strike a friendship,

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